So after waiting a solid 15 weeks to finally tell my family about the pregnancy, i mustered up the courage and it went alot better then i ever expected. which i'm happy i did because i was going to wait till me and OH were supposed to be going home to visit (home is 900 miles away). but the day before we were scheduled to leave, the army decided to tell him he wasnt approved for leave. (BULL)
the whole time we had planned to go, i always had this feeling he didnt want to. (back story) in june we were supposed to go visit his mother and sisters who leave 12 hours south of us, and not where my family is. and a few days before we left his mom told him i wasnt welcome in her house, so we didnt go.
he's VERY attached to his mother, he calls her about everything. i didnt mind for awhile until i realized how bad it was. he calls her everytime we fight to bitch about it. and in turn it has made her hate me. i cant say i blame her, but at the same time, he tells her his side of every story, which is usually "i didnt do anything shes crazy waah wahh waaah" so his mom thinks i'm some crazy bitch, which really...i'm not. and she KNOWS how he is, why take his side without even talking to me? his family used to LOVE ME.
so anyway, a few weeks ago he literally woke me up at 4am to fight with me, all i wanted to do was sleep, i wasnt arguing, i wasnt fighting, i wasnt saying or doing anything, i was ignoring him completely. what does he do? calls mom.
but its 5am by her, and shes asleep, so he calls his sister and doesnt stop calling until she answers and tells her to wake up their mother.
so he crys to her and blah blah. fights over by the time he gets home from work, however his sister is pissed. (at ME!!!!!) she literally googled my PARENTS home address and sent me a text message with it saying "haha bitch, i know where you live" she continued with "let me find out your lying about being pregnant and see what happens" and "watch who you say haha too because i'll be the one with the last laugh"
the harassing texts continue until OH finally has her number blocked from my phone. so she starts on fb. i blocked her, so she trys my mom, she cant message my mom, so she messages my 18 YEAR OLD LITTLE SISTER!!!!!
"get your sister away from my brother or i will."
........Wtf?
so he has a "talk" with his mom and his other sister who is FUMING about her doing this to me. but nothing comes of it. he still talks to her like its nothing and acts like it never happened.
so anyway, my mom wanted us to come home end of august, and now that she knows ab bubs she wants to throw a baby shower, with his family (that lives out by home) and mine. trying to organize that in 3 weeks is impossible so we settled on october being a great time for it. i was talking to OH about it, and jokingly said "you know men arent invited to these right?!" because MOST of the time, men dont want to, or only women are invited. OBVIOUSLY hes coming to ours, i was just messing, but he got all serious and said "fine ill have my own, i'll go smoke cigars and get drunk" -whatever.
i mentioned how my mom wanted to extend the invitation to his mother down south, even though she figured she wouldnt make the trip, but felt rude just not inviting her. and he said she wont come we'll have another shower down by her.
so i said with who? i have some family there, but not enough to have a "shower" with. its just my dads sister and all her kids, and i really dont talk to them much. maybe go for a nice dinner, but not have a party. and then his mom and two sisters. also, where would we stay? im not welcome in their house apparently, and you couldnt pay me to stay anywhere near the girl who wanted to threaten my life, and say all those things.
his other sister is a sweetheart, and his mom....well i guess shes getting over things about me, and his thrilled to be having a grandchild, but that doesnt change things with his other sister. and i wont make myself that uncomfortable. she was rude to me the first time we stayed there and she had never even met me yet, and this was when we had only been together a few months and were still honeymooners.
i just dont know what to do. i feel bad because its his family and i want them to be involved, after all i didnt make this baby by myself.
but i really dont have any strength to even go down by them and stay in a hotel and still have to see her. just thinking about her makes me want to cry.
he told me shes never been like this before, which actually pisses me off because he dated a girl before me who was a drugged out junkie and she hated her she would constantly fight with her, but she wasnt THIS nasty to that girl? and here i am, doing everything i can to make him happy, i come from a good family, a good background, ive been nothing but polite, and nice, and greatful to them, and i get treated like this?
i feel so lost in the sauce.
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